Fitness, get fit, running

2 Tips 2 Help You Get Moving

“In January of 2017, I became a runner”  … Let me tell you, those are words I never thought I’d say.  Fitness has always been a part of my life, but whenever anyone would mention running, I’d quickly shut it down.  Can you relate?  I mean, running is hard.  Runners are known for saying it’s more mental than it is physical, but when I try telling that to my legs, they just don’t listen.  “Hello?  Legs?  No worries, because this running gig is all mental.”  haha.  Nope.  Running really hurts and never gets easier.

Last year, I turned fifty (which wasn’t nearly as scary as expected) and ran thirteen races (which was every bit as scary as expected), proving age is just a number.  As it turns out, an old dog really can learn new tricks.  Psychologists say there’s no such thing as a life plateau, so if you’re not growing, you’re going backward.  I don’t have time to go backward.  So this year, in addition to the 5k and 10k races Spring will usher in, I’m planning to tackle a half marathon.  Quite honestly, my palms get sweaty and my tummy gets butterflies whenever I think about it.  13.1 miles is a looooooong jaunt for a gal who’s only been running for a little over a year.

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But after a year of running and achieving some goals, I know I can do this.  The benefits of running have been life changing for me.  I don’t remember a time when I’ve had so much energy.  The runner’s high is real.

At the same time, though, I know myself … and I enjoy a comfort zone as much as anyone.  Currently, 5Ks/10Ks are what make me feel super safe and cozy.  Needing a boost of motivation to run all of the extra miles a half marathon will require in preparation for the actual race, I started talking to other runners about how they manage long practice runs.  Podcasts seemed to be a buzzword everyone mentioned.  But I’m 50, remember?  And I’m not very cool.  So what the heck were these podcasts the millennials were speaking of?

Well.  I found out.  And I’m hooked.  On this show:

lewis howes podcast

When I run, I listen to his podcasts, and I learn and grow.  I get so caught up in the stories and interviews, I forget I’m running.  I find an episode that interests me, plan to run until the end of the episode, and then off I go.  Before I know it, I’ve been running three or four miles.  So, tip number one to motivate a good run (or a long walk) is to listen to Podcasts.  Use that time to enjoy being outdoors while being inspired by someone else’s story.

Taking motivation a step further, I just recently learned about charity miles.  If podcasts weren’t enough to keep me excited about moving, this app has sent me into running orbit:

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Get this.  Charity Miles gives money to YOUR favorite charity for every mile you run (or walk).   The money comes from corporate sponsors who are repurposing their advertising budgets for good.  It’s a win-win for all.  There are 40 charities to choose from, and you’re not locked in.  You can change your charity choice at any time.  As the mom of two incredibly cute and amazing kiddos who sport an extra chromosome, my charity of choice is Special Olympics.  Every step I take, I think about how I’m doing something to benefit talented athletes who consistently demonstrate true heart and sportsmanship.  Love, love, love this!  I logged 24 miles this week for Special Olympics, and it feels good!!!

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According to Tony Robbins, the secret to living is giving.  I completely agree with him.  When we give back, it reminds us of our truest purpose and motivates us to be more productive.  So find a podcast that will encourage you to be a better version of you, and then upload Charity Miles, get moving, and be a better version of you.

These are two tips that keep me moving.  What motivates you to get fit and stay fit?  Share in the comments.  I’d love to hear from you.

Just my thoughts.

~Mel

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How A Special Needs Mom Fought Loneliness With Three Easy Steps … and Won!

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I’ve been a special needs mom to a princess who rocks an extra chromosome for more than 13 years, and thanks to the miracle of adoption and a red-headed cheese puff who also rocks that extra something, I’ve been a special needs mom to two kiddos for 10 years.  Both are non-verbal, and both are a handful of mischief, drama, and constant giggles.  Like typical siblings, they fuss with each other (which amounts to grunting back and forth for what seems like an eternity at times).  They take things from each other, occasionally pinch one another, and even manage to tell on each other.  Picture little man grabbing my hand and pulling me to his big sister, then bursting into tears … while at the same time, big sister rolls her eyes and looks away.  Yep.  She’s usually guilty.

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Neither can take care of any of their needs independently.  They rely on me completely.  I dress them, bathe them, feed them, put them to bed, and read their minds (at least I try).  I talk to them, filling in their quiet with my own version of what they’d probably like to say if they had a voice.  Hopey has a high cartoon voice when I speak for her.  She thinks it’s hilarious, especially when I roll my eyes, stomp my foot, and act like a true teenage girl.  For Charlie, I use a sweet baby voice … because he’ll always be the baby of the family.

We try to agree on music in the car.  If I choose a Luke Bryan or Bruno Mars song, we’re always good.  But when I step outside the box, they sometimes break down into sobs.  We try to agree on clothing choices, but they’ve been known to rip off their clothing just as I finished getting it on their wriggling bodies.  Charlie, for added affect, likes to throw his shirt across the room.  Uhhhhhm, I guess you don’t like the shirt choice, dude?  haha.  (Did I mention they are full-on drama?)  I can laugh about it now.  I mean, c’mon, it’s funny.

The stress level of a special needs mom has been likened to the stress level of a combat soldier.  I’m convinced it isn’t necessarily because the role is so difficult, but because special needs moms never feel like they’re doing enough for their kiddos.  We question ourselves constantly.  Have we provided enough opportunities?  Therapy?  Education?  Are we feeding them too much?  Are they exercising enough?  Did I remember to double lock the doors so she can’t escape during the night?  Is his sniffle worth a doctor’s appointment?  Or is the risk of him catching something worse too great for that appointment?  And don’t even get me started on how much we worry about our child’s future.  Honestly, our minds never shut off.

There was a time when I was so caught up in figuring out how to be a special needs mom that I forgot how to live.  Unintentionally, I closed doors on friends and family who’d been in my life for years, because I felt they couldn’t possibly understand my new normal.  One day, I awoke to an overwhelming feeling of loneliness and regret.  I’d been so laser focused on reaching my two kiddos, that in the process, I forgot that I needed a support system.  I felt lost.  I thought I was being the best mom in the world.  But you know what I realized?  If I lose myself, I’m not being the best mom I can be.  More than anything else, they need me to be me.

I’d like to say that with this realization came a sweeping life altering shift.  As with most change, however, it was slow and steady.  I began by hiring a trainer.  I felt if I committed to her and to a schedule, I’d stick with it.  As it turns out, she became my biggest cheerleader.  Not only did she daily encourage me to push through my workouts, as I got to know her, she slowly invaded all of my empty, hurting spaces.  She asked me questions about my life.  She listened.  And she reminded me that I’m enough and that God is always with me.  Last year, she challenged me to run a 5K.  I ended up running thirteen.  She’s been my trainer for four years now, and I count her as one of the best friends I’ve ever had in my life.  The gym quickly became my community as I met new people.  In the process, I became physically stronger.  The more fit I became, the happier I felt.  My energy increased as endorphins kicked into high gear, I went from a size 8 to a size 4, and then one day I realized I felt like myself again.  It had been years.

tonya and me --- hot chocolate race 2018

Around the same time, I decided to open my home once a month to a group of my best buddies for a pizza party and karaoke.  They are all so much fun, I knew they’d usher happiness right into my life on a regular basis.  And they never disappointed.  What I didn’t expect, though, was what a tremendous role their parents would play in my fight.  These selfless moms and dads would drop off or pick up their adult children, and instead of walking away, they’d hug me.  They’d look me in the eyes and thank me for hosting a party.  Sometimes they’d come into the house and chat with me.  They made an effort to get to know me and my children.  Welcoming me into their lives without any walls, prerequisites, or expectations, they made me feel like a part of their families.

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And finally, I became intentional about hiring sitters so that I could get out and do regular things that other moms get to do.  I have to say, God really showed off in this area.  I was terribly slow to trust others with my munchkins, because remember, I never left them.  So it was going to take some super fantastic girls who had a true desire to spend time with Hope and Charlie before I’d be able to leave them.  He brought me Nancy, Dana, two Hannah’s, Kelsey, Katie, Bryn, Bethany, and Rikki.  I can’t say enough about these girls, who are my superheroes.  Each wear their love for my kiddos on their sleeve.  They’ve worked tirelessly to break into Hopey’s tiny circle, they’ve tried every trick in the book to get Charlie to eat solid food (at 10 years of age, he still has his food puree’d and put into a bottle), and they’ve recklessly embraced all of me.   Whenever I attempt to show them more love and appreciation, they immediately meet we with the same.  They’re like beautiful mirrors reflecting everything I have to give right back to me.   I treasure them.  In every way, they are the hands, feet, and heart of God.

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Life is messy.  There are times when we wake up and wonder how things became so crazy.  Can you relate?  But my message is that it’s never too late to make changes.  Maybe you’ll be blessed by getting a chance at a re-do.  Or perhaps you’re like me, and you’ll have to start all over from scratch.  It doesn’t really matter as long as you dig your heels into the dirt and move forward with intention.  I began with three simple goals.

  1.  Exercise so I can be healthy enough to raise my kiddos
  2.  Open my home to others
  3.  Hire sitters so I can occasionally get out

I stuck with them, continued to move forward, and my life totally turned around.  Not only am I not lonely, my life is filled and overflowing.  If I can do it, so can you.  What are your three simple goals?  Write them down and make a decision to hold yourself to them.

Just my thoughts,

~Mel

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Fitness, get fit, get healthy, Health blog, self care

Four Easy Ways To Make Time For Fitness

The Cheese-Puff is nude more often than he’s clothed.  Shirts, shorts, and shoes are such an unnecessary bother when sensory processing is a daily struggle.  “Clothes on,” I say, at least twenty to thirty times a day.  Pulling a shirt back over his skinny-winny little bare naked body, I take time to kiss his tomato red hair.  Who could resist?

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Hopey dumps waaaaaaay more water from her cup than she drinks from a straw.  She sometimes pours it over her own head … sometimes over mine.  Why?  I wish I knew.  But she thinks it’s hilarious.  After the water is spilled, she runs off on her tippy toes and giggles with abandon.  “No, Hopey,” I yell, as she ditches me for the hidden shadows.  At every moment, though, I choose my battles.  And water just isn’t that big of a deal.

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Bringing up two kiddos who sport an extra chromosome and who are non-verbal is challenging.  Neither speak one word, but they still fuss and fight like typical siblings.  And both vie for my attention constantly.  One goes to bed with the chickens and rises early.  The other is a night owl and is like waking the dead.  One can tag you in the head with a ball from twelve feet away.  The other can climb your body like you’re a tree and have his arms around your neck before you know what’s happened.  They try to get away with jumping on beds, climbing on tables, and rolling the house in toilet paper … every single day.  They’d rather dance to a Luke Bryan song than eat.  They’re master escape artists.  And if I leave the house without them, you’d think the whole world has come to an abrupt end.  You’ve never seen the drama these two can cook up.

I travel, kayak, explore, and dance like a fool with Hope and Charlie.  My life is so much fun, but it can also be chaotic.   And hard.  If I didn’t take time to be on top of my game, I’d be overthrown in a minute.  My secret to being the consistent queen of my brood is fitness. Exercise boosts my mood, gives me energy, and is empowering.  Do I have time to be fit?  Ummmmm, the answer to that question is a hard no.  Do I always feel like working out?  I’m fifty years old and am outnumbered by two kiddos who have more energy than a zoo monkey, so the answer to that question would be a hell no.  But I make fitness a priority so I can remain the queen.  haha.  At least in my own mind.

This begs the question of HOW to make time for fitness.

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If you’ve read this far, you’ve checked off the biggest and most important box by realizing you need to make fitness a part of your routine.  If I can do it, you can too:

First, make a schedule and stick with it.  Carve out thirty-five minutes of time, five days a week, and make that time a priority.  Even if you don’t feel like working out, push through it.  Eventually, it will become a habit.

Second, plan your workout ahead of time.  If you try to workout on the fly, you won’t make near as much progress.  Every other day, use weights to focus on arms, shoulders, and back.  The other days, work legs and glutes.  Take five minutes each day for abs and set aside fifteen minutes each day for cardio.  It’s can actually be that simple.

Third, find someone who will hold you accountable.  Without an advocate who will push and encourage you, the beginning of this journey will be nearly impossible.  Your head will give you every reason under the sun why it’s not normal for a woman to sweat.  You won’t be able to sit down on the toilet seat, climb out of your car,  or bend down to pick up the quarter you dropped when checking out at Publix, because your muscles will be aching.  You’ll wonder what you’ve gotten yourself into.  You’ll think you’re too old, too fat, too tired, too busy, or too depressed.  Trust me, you need someone lined up who will remind you that if you want to be a queen, you must continue to tackle those push-ups, squats, and burpees.

Fourth, change your point of view.  Your workout isn’t optional.  It’s sacred.  You wouldn’t skip eating or sleeping.  You wouldn’t miss an episode of The Bachelor or that Starbucks visit with your college roomie.  With statistics overwhelmingly proving how a regular fitness routine boosts your health and increases longevity, why wouldn’t it be sacred?  It’s a no-brainer, and can be achieved with only 35 minutes per day.  Yassssss, Queens (and Kings)!!!!

Here’s a quick 35 minute routine to get you started:

Download Tabata Stopwatch Pro

Settings:

  • Initial Countdown = 5 seconds
  • Exercise Interval – 25 seconds
  • Rest Interval = 10 seconds
  • Number of sets:  30

 

Week 1:  

(Use your Tabata stopwatch with the settings above.  It will prompt on when to begin each exercise and when to rest … Just do as many reps as you can within the exercise interval, making sure to implement correct form.  Don’t rush.)

Arm Day:

  1. Bicep Curl and Overhead Press
  2. Tricep Dips
  3. Bent Over Flies
  4. Chest Press (lie on mat or on bench)
  5. Chest Flies (lie on mat or on bench)
  6. Skull Crushers (lie on mat or on bench)

Leg Day:

  1. Prisoner Squats
  2. Front Kicks
  3. Side Lunges
  4. Squat Jumps
  5. Donkey Kicks
  6. Walking Front Lunge

Fifteen minutes of cardio:

Walk three minutes, jog three minutes, walk three minutes, jog three minutes … alternating until you’ve completed fifteen minutes.  Go as hard as you can.

Five Minute Abs:

  1. 20 crunches
  2. 20 crunches with legs bent into stomach
  3. 20 crunches with right leg up in the air / left leg still crunched to stomach
  4. 20 crunches with left leg up in the air / right leg still crunched to stomach
  5. 20 crunch toe-taps (crunch legs into stomach, then extend legs down to tap floor)
  6. 20 crunches (cross right leg over left knee — bring left elbow to right knee)
  7. 20 crunches (cross left leg over right knee — bring right elbow to left knee)
  8. 20 bicycle crunches
  9. Two 30 second elbow planks 

PLEASE send me a private message if you have any questions … or feel free to comment.  I’ll be your advocate, your cheerleader, and your go-to!!!

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Just my thoughts!

Melanie

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Running To The Treehouse

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A common thread weaved through the best fiction ever written is truth.  A place of authenticity stripped down to the bare bones, laid out for the world to devour.  The reader connects, not to the words, but to the spirit behind the words.  The author’s soul.

Winnie the Pooh, who had the coolest treehouse of all, is a series of tales based on a real bear.  Each of his friends … Eeyore, Piglet, Tigger, Rabbit, Christopher Robin, Kanga, and Roo … were based on actual people.  That’s why the story affects us.  Infects us.  With hope, dreams, and memories of yesteryear when life was much simpler.  It’s genuine, and as humans, we long for things that are real.

This past weekend, I escaped to a real life treehouse.  Out in the middle of what appears to be a world of its own, perched within the safe confines of four towering pines, is Morrison’s Treehouse Getaway.  It’s not a place to go when you’re running away from something, but a place you run to … because something you long for is missing.

 

Remember when summer meant exploring a grand forest?  It may have been half an acre of woods behind your house, but through eyes that have yet to be jaded, those straggly trees provide hours of fantasy.  Climbing on rocks.  Collecting treasures in your pocket that you’ve picked up from around the base of evergreens.  Splashing in a creek.  Returning home for dinner, covered head to toe in dirt and grass stains.  Staying up late, lying outside on the ground, sharing your heart with your best friend … paying no attention to the time or how much sleep is needed before greeting the rising sun.  Just living life.

 

If the best tales are written from an honest place that has been stripped down … then perhaps the best memories are written in a similar way.  When our surroundings are stripped down and laid bare.  A few days without Netflix, cell phone coverage, and the need for a car.  Allowing our truest selves to shine forth.  Re-discovering what we knew in our youth.  This world is what we make it, and we have the power to write our own stories every day.

 

The best thing about Morrison’s Treehouse is that it’s simple.  Yes, it’s beautiful in every way, but in a very relaxing sort of way.  The owners have gone to great lengths to make the space comfortable and welcoming.  It feels like home.  They open the door, and have left it up to the visitors to find their way.

 

On our journey, we sang songs on the grand deck around a fire.  We explored the stream, climbed on rocks, and made our way down every trail.  We saw bear prints and imagined how big the bear might be.  The girls slept in the loft above me, and when lights were out, we stayed up late into the night talking about nothing … and everything … not paying attention to how much sleep we might need until the sun rose to bring on the morning.  For a couple of days, we unplugged from life and reunited on a different level.  On the base human level we all share, regardless of whether we’re family, friends, neighbors, or even strangers.

“…what I like doing best is Nothing.”

“How do you do nothing?” asked Pooh, after he had wondered for a long time.

“Well, it’s when people call out at you just as you’re going off to do it, What are you going to do Christopher Robin, and you say, Oh, nothing, and you go and do it.”

“Oh, I see,” said Pooh.

“This is a nothing sort of thing that we’re doing right now.”

“Oh, I see,” said Pooh again.

“It means just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering.”

~A.A. Milne, The House at Pooh Corner

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Run to the treehouse!
Run to the treehouse!
Run!
Just my thoughts,
~Melanie

 

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A Perfect Weekend Getaway — Bear Lake Reserve

With temperatures as hot as Hades in the Tennessee valley, the kiddos and I packed up and headed toward the Blue Ridge Mountains for a weekend getaway.  A quick google search on VRBO for properties that included mountains, a lake, and a swimming pool led us to a brand new destination spot:  Bear Lake Reserve

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Tucked high up in the North Carolina peaks at an elevation of 2600 feet, this 2,100-acre gated community is spectacular.  Upon entering, you feel like you’ve escaped into a whole other world where you are immediately welcome and among friends.  The resort offers a full-service restaurant, a nine-hole golf course, two swimming pools, 20 miles of hiking trails, a game room, a fitness facility, and a daily list of planned activities for kids and families.

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The heart of the community, though, is a glassy 500 acre lake hedged by majestically tall mountain tops that jut from the ground like a royal crown, surrounding the pristine water.  Reaching out to meander in and out of hidden forest coves, this lake is dotted with a small island that offers the simple thrill of a rope swing.  Bear Creek calls for you to enjoy her cool temperatures, offering fishing, boat rentals, wave runners, kayaks, and paddle boards.  She doesn’t disappoint.

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I decided I might as well let my rowdy ragamuffins take in everything the lake had to offer.  The wave runners were brand new and very quick, giving us a full-on fast adventure … while paddle boards and kayaks urged us to slow down and soak in the beauty of the day and early evening.  The rental rates are reasonable, and the supply is plenteous.  Hope and Charlie enjoyed it all.

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Since we were only going to be staying for a weekend, we never left the Bear Lake Reserve property.  The Lake Club, a 14,000 square foot rock faced facility, has three restaurants and provided one big meal a day for us.   Their menu has everything from burgers and wraps to shrimp & grits and tenderloin.  Want to eat by the pool?  No problem.  But they also offer dining on an outside deck overlooking the lake or in their upscale restaurant space.  And at night, even in the summer, the temps are cool enough for fleecy sweatshirts and fireside chats.  With large stone fireplaces strategically placed on the lodge property, visitors can always find a warm spot to sit and relax.

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The pool area is vast.  There is a poolside grill, an abundance of lounge chairs and fresh towels, and a staff that waits on you hand and foot.  You can even have a poolside massage if you schedule one.  I can’t say enough about the staff … they are kind and eager to assist.  And as far as accommodations go, we chose a two bedroom condo.  Only a couple of minutes from the lodge, it was a perfect location.  I found the owner through VRBO , and she was a dream to work with.

 

If you’re looking for a weekend getaway that feels like a true escape from reality, I’d highly recommend Bear Lake Reserve.  Peace has been created with great intention, from the choice of music that plays through the speakers to the gorgeous flowers that line every path.  The WiFi works great at the lodge, but not really anywhere else on property, which gives much needed unplugged time.  Honestly, this place will exceed all of your expectations.

Just my thoughts.

~Melanie

Fitness

Ten Seconds A Day To Change A Life: Why A 50 Year Old Special Needs Mom Is Competing For The Title Of Ms. Health & Fitness 2018

What would make a 50 year old special needs mom enter a competition called Ms Health And Fitness?  Is it a mid-life crisis?  A shot at fifteen seconds of fame?  Nah.

I entered this competition because of Kaylee.

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Kaylee is a good friend, she’s funny, loves to give hugs, always has her nails perfectly painted, and is also a dancer.  She’s part of a dance class with other girls who have special needs, and I’ve had the awesome opportunity to be a spectator at one of Kaylee’s performances.  Upon just a single glance, it’s immediately obvious how the entire dance crew feels music down deep in a place the rest of us haven’t experienced.  Kaylee’s big sister spins her around on stage in her wheelchair, and I promise, there’s not a dry eye to be found.  It’s an unforgettable sight to see as joy always radiates from this beauty’s face.

Speaking of the wheelchair, Kaylee is confined to it … and her home isn’t handicap accessible.  Her momma, as a result, has to carry her when moving her from room to room.  Recently, her family was scammed by a person who was supposedly printing and selling t-shirts to fundraise for Kaylee.  The money was going to be used to widen hallways and doorways in their small mobile home to give Kaylee and her wheelchair more freedom.  Family and friends pitched in to purchase the t-shirts, and more than one-thousand dollars was raised.  But it was a con.  The money is now gone right along with the man who crafted the scheme.  In his terrible wake is Kaylee, who is in need of money to make improvements to her home.

I entered this competition because of Jessica, Leslie, Graham, Hannah, Nick, Dustin, Amber, Jared, Heather, and Kevin:

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These silly willies are my best buddies.  They’re quick-witted, charming, kind, loyal, hard-working … and they have intellectual disabilities.   Graham is in charge of recycling at the Trousdale School, and he is always spreading the message of saving the earth.  Leslie was recently honored the Tennessee Sports Hall of Fame “Heart of a Champion” award for being a multi-sport Special Olympic superstar.  Hannah has Autism, and she is a brilliant actress.  Jessica is an artist.  Nick and Jared can sing every word to most country music songs.  Dustin and Kevin have Down syndrome, and both have dance moves rivaling anyone on Dancing With The Stars.  I guess you could say each are differently abled in the most spectacular sort of way.

As they’re getting older, though, their parents are aging too.  And the worry of what the future will look like is a viable concern.  Every special needs family faces the burdensome reality of the circle of life.  In response, the Trousdale School in Cleveland, TN is getting ready to build an incredible residential center that will house my best friends.  It will have around the clock supervision and care while encouraging independence, creativity, friendship, and personal growth.  But money is needed to get this project completed.

The winner of Ms Health And Fitness 2018 gets a whopping $20,000.00.  And if I win, half the winnings will go to Kaylee and half will go toward the Trousdale School’s residential center.  That’s the reason a 50 year old special needs mom would enter this kind of competition.  I mean, let’s get real.  The rules encourage contestants to use professional photos.  And as a mom of two cuties who have special needs, I barely have time to snap pictures with my iPhone.  Want to see what I’m up against?

These are my fellow competitors:

 

This is Anna Neal, the very fit young woman who won the competition last year:

 

Aaaaaaaand.  This is me. (You guessed it, a picture snapped with my iPhone):

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While I totally think I could rock this title … and while I’d love to have the opportunity to showcase the special needs community … I realize it’s a looooong shot.  haha.  The greatest stories and victories, however, usually come from the longest shots.

I’m not as young and beautiful as the other contenders, but I definitely qualify because health and fitness are life to me.  Four years ago, I was so overwhelmed with many different things life was throwing at me.  It got to a point where I was I living each moment waiting for the next panic attack.   Anxiety looks different for every person.  For me, panic attacks would come out of nowhere and would cause my body to start shaking violently.  It was completely out of my control and frightening.  Finally, I reached a point where I had to make a change.

My choices were to spill my guts to a therapist or to hire a trainer who would push me physically to a point of spilling my guts out on the gym floor.  Studies show it only takes five minutes of aerobic exercise to stimulate anti-anxiety effects in our bodies, so I chose the trainer and have never looked back.  Panic attacks, fear, and feelings of inadequacy are a distant memory.  I work out with my trainer five days a week and run at least one mile a day.  So far this year, I’ve competed in ten races … I earned first place in one of the races in my age group and took second in two others

 

I entered this competition because of Hope and Charlie:

One day, I may be in Kaylee’s mom’s shoes and find myself needing assistance in widening a doorway or in buying a piece of therapy equipment for my own kiddos.

One day, I may not be able to care for Hope and Charlie, and they may need a residential center where they can thrive while being loved and kept safe.

Kaylee represents my life.

The Trousdale School represents my life.

I also entered this competition because I’m proud to be part of the differently abled community.  Daily, I see all the special needs mommas on social media who are in the trenches … loving, serving, and spilling themselves out for those who have been placed in their care.  Advocating.  Training.  Celebrating.  Holding out hope for the brightest future.

Those moms represent my life too.

It only takes 10 seconds per day for the next six weeks … and voting is free:

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And remember to vote every single day for Kaylee and for my best buddies!!!!

(A big thanks to all who have already voted!!!)

Just my thoughts,

~Mel

 

For all who have asked, here are the official rules:

Round 1: TOP 25 (Starts June 19th and Ends June 28th, 2018) – Selected Entrants will be divided equally into seventy two (72) groups. Public voting will help reduce each group to the top twenty-five (25) models.

Round 2: TOP 10 (Starts June 28th and Ends July 5th, 2018) – Public voting will help reduce the top twenty-five (25) to the top ten (10) models in each group.

Round 3: TOP 5 (Starts July 5th and Ends July 12th, 2018) – Public voting will help reduce the top ten (10) to the top five (5) models in each group.

Round 4: Group Winners (Starts July 12th and Ends July 19th, 2018) – Public voting will help reduce the top five (5) models to one (1) preliminary winner in each group. Second place group finishers will advance to the Wildcard Round.

WILDCARD ROUND (VOTING RESETS)

Round 5: Wildcard Round (Starts July 20th and Ends July 22nd, 2018) – Second place group finishers will be divided evenly into twelve (12) groups. Public voting will determine one (1) winner from each Wildcard group. Wildcard winners advance to the semi-finals.

SEMI-FINALS (VOTING RESETS)

Round 6: Semi-finals (Starts July 23rd and Ends August 2nd, 2018) – Preliminary group winners and Wildcard winners will be divided evenly into twelve (12) semi-final groups. Public voting will determine one (1) winner from each semi-finals group that will advance into the finals.

FINALS (VOTING RESETS)

Round 7: Finals (Starts August 3rd and Ends August 9th, 2018) – Public voting will help reduce the top twelve (12) finalists to the one (1) winner of the Ms Health and Fitness competition (the “Grand Prize Winner”), subject to such individuals compliance with the Rules and any other applicable terms and conditions in connection with the Competition.

 

 

Fitness, get fit, get healthy, self care, skin care, Summer Fashion, Summer Style

Hats, Baths, & Masks

HATS:

Hats are a must have for the summer months.  Not only do they protect our faces from the sun, they protect our hair too.  UVA rays dry out and damage the outer layer of our hair, making it appear brittle.  Add in the daily humidity, and summer hair can be the worst.  If you’re not having that great of a hair day, put your hair in loose braids or pull it back into a low pony and sock a cute hat on for instant style.  If you have short hair, you’re already ready to just wear a hat and go.  Most females overthink hats, but it’s actually a simple addition.  Solid colors are easier to coordinate and straw hats go with everything.  Just have fun with it.

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My black hat sort of reminds me of Jethro from the Beverly Hillbillies, but I really like it.  haha.  It’s a bit stretchy, not too tight, and is lightweight.  I’ve paired it with a shirt I pulled off the sale rack at American Eagle for $10.00 and some cut-off jean shorts (also from American Eagle).  With black sandals, I’m ready for any outdoor event.  Here’s a link to the tops currently on Clearance at American Eagle.

BATHS:

Do you sweat?  I’m a fitness freak.  Every day I do high intensity interval training and also run a couple of miles.  In the summer, especially, I sweat a lot.  Exercising to the point of producing lots of sweat is so good for us.  It manufactures happy feelings, gives us an energy rush, reduces aches and pains, and releases toxins from our bodies.  But getting that sweat off of our bodies is equally important.  The bathtub is a perfect solution.  Not only will it cleanse your body, but it will also restore and relax your body.

After a long day outside, it’s important to pamper our skin.  Again, the sun will do some damage.  Find a good moisturizing bubble bath, light a candle, turn on some soft music, and relax.  I experiment with different kinds of bubble baths, bath bombs, and body washes.  This one from Caress really does have a buttery burnt brown sugar smell as advertised.  It. Is. Yummy.  Here’s the link … I picked it up at Target.

 

 

Masks:   

If caring for our entire body is important, our faces should be at the top of the list as the most important part of our bodies.  Caring for our faces every day needs to be a priority.  I’ve said it before, and will say it again, don’t ever go to bed with makeup on.  It will age your skin.  Cleanse your face everyday.  Exfoliate often.  Pamper it with moisturizer two times a day, morning and night.  And try to make time for a mask once a week.

 

This mask is by a company called Yes To.   I’d heard the company was started by two guys who played soccer, and was definitely curious to find out what these dudes know about skincare.  As it turns out, they apparently know a lot.  They use 95% natural ingredients in their products and make sure all are free of toxins.  This was my first time using one of their masks, and I have to say I might be hooked.  It was thick and creamy, had a nice gentle scent, went on easy, and left my skin feeling so soft.  If you aren’t married to a certain type of mask, give it a try.  Target carries this product too!

The takeaway is self care.  As women, we’re so adept at taking care of others, aren’t we?  We check off lists all day every day.  It’s part of our DNA.  I swear, when God made Eve, that woman probably opened her eyes and immediately got to work sprucing up the Garden of Eden.

Adam was like:  “Hey, God made sex, and He says it’s very good … wanna have a go at it?”

Eve:  “Ummmm, yeh, sure thing.  But first I need to figure out how I can turn a pile of palm leaves into cute throw pillows for our bed, clear away all the brush so our outdoor digs will be tidy, prune a couple of trees to give some sharp curb appeal, and gather more fruit and veggies in case the Lord stops by for dinner … plus, don’t we have babies to tend to?”

Adam:  “Well, no … we have to have the sex first.”

Can you relate?  The housekeeping and the lists will wait.  The kids will wait too.  It took me fifty years, but I’ve finally embraced the importance of putting myself first for a couple of hours a day.  Living in the moment.  I’m very type-A … if I can do it, so can you.

Exercise, take baths, experiment with different beauty products, and love yourself.  Age is just a number, but life is short.  You’re worth the extra effort!

Just my thoughts,

Melanie

Disney Vacation, Summer Style, Vacation

Where To Stay & How To Play On Your Summer Disney Vacay!

The kiddos and I just returned from the most magical place on earth.  While my tattered and worn-out body is back home, I think my heart stayed behind at Cinderella’s castle.  If you are a Disney fanatic like I am, you know exactly what I’m talking about.  Gaaaaaah, why didn’t I just push that freezer full of Mickey Mouse Ice Cream Bars back home?

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In the past, out of necessity, my family has opted for two or three bedroom suites at Old Key West, Saratoga Springs, and the Tree Houses.  With Hope and Charlie, my two youngest who have Down syndrome, we’ve always needed those extra rooms.  Up until fairly recently, both battled major sleep issues.  Especially Charlie.  So if I wanted any sleep at all after walking 15,000+ steps a day at the parks, I had to have some separation from them at night.  A door to close.  A reliable lock.  And my own bed.

Things in the sleeping department are finally looking up with the little hooligans, though … Praise Jesus!!!  So this time, my crew stepped out of our comfort zone and visited Port Orleans Riverside.  It was finally our time to be close to all the action, so I requested that we be put in the middle of it all.  And let me tell you, the action was awesome!

Steps away from our room was:

  • a huge swimming pool with a slide
  • an excellent food court that serves create your own pasta, burgers, salads, and ice cream sundaes
  • a nice sit down restaurant with live entertainment
  • a General Store that has everything from aspirin and peanut butter to flips flops and jewelry
  • a water taxi that sails regularly to Disney Springs
  • and a running/walking path

If we’d had more time, we could’ve roasted marshmallows over an open fire while catching a movie on the expansive lawn.  Again, only steps away from our room.  The downside to our stay, of course, is that we didn’t have as much space.  But who goes to Disney to stay in a room?  The price difference?  $250.00 vs. $700.00 per night.  Let me tell you, the savings is still feeling really good.

As annual pass holders, we go to Disney at least three to four times a year.  It’s like our second home … the one I love far more than my primary home.   I couldn’t count the number of times we’ve been even if I tried to piece it together.  As a result, people are always asking me for Disney advice.  And since it’s one of my favorite subjects to talk about, I’m more than happy to oblige.

Summer, because kiddos aren’t in school, is typically known as the time of year when the parks are the busiest.  However, from my experience, the parks are always hopping no matter the season.  By following some simple tips, though, Walt Disney World can be thoroughly enjoyed without a lot of stress and anxiety.  So put on your mouse ears and listen up:

  1. Pack light
  2. Wear comfy shoes
  3. Visit every park and thoughtfully take in all the nuances that make each one unique
  4. Say no to the dining plan unless your family, as a group, eats a whole heckuva lot
  5. Learn to use the Fast Pass system and stay on schedule
  6. Reserve your spot at a Disney Resort — the benefits are worth the extra $$$
  7. Utilize every single extra magic hour
  8. Go to the pool during the heat of the day while everyone else is melting in the parks
  9. If your child has special needs, get a Disability Access Pass
  10. Opt for the magic band and load a credit card on it to save time
  11. Eat at the resort … snack at the parks
  12. Bring a back pack into the parks to carry bottled water and snacks
  13. It’s worth the wait to visit the characters
  14. The fireworks, shows, and parades are a must
  15. Ride every ride at least one time, except Mission: SPACE  (you’d have to be crazy to ride that ride!)
  16. Eat the Mickey Ice Cream Bar
  17. Leave your troubles behind and allow yourself to escape to another world … Walt Disney World!

What shoes to wear?

In warmer months, I wear these Taos sandals to Disney.  True to form, I wore them this last trip.  In three days, I walked nearly 50,000 steps and my feet didn’t bother me once.  Some people refuse to pay $100.00 for a pair of sandals, but for the sake of your feet, it’s at least something to consider.  This is my second pair of these exact same sandals, by the way.  In the summer, they are my go-to when walking long distances.  They come in multiple colors, but I prefer the pewter color because they match everything:

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Shorts, of course …  OR.  YOU.  WILL.  DIE!!!  Seriously, ladies, you’ll die.

As for shirts, I pack tops that don’t require a bra.  haha.  But that’s how I roll.  For me, less is more when the temperature is reaching for that one-hundred degree mark.  American Eagle has a conservative version of the tube top right now.  They are super soft, priced right, and fit perfectly.  I’ve purchased two so far (see photos below).  I wore them for hours at Disney.  Stayed cool.  And didn’t have to tug at them once.   All of my clothes on this trip were from American Eagle:

As for the kiddos,  I pack a very good fitting pair of sneakers for each and loose clothing.  In addition, I throw an extra set of clothes into the backpack for Hope and Charlie, just in case they need to change in the parks.  You never know.  Big spills happen.  Most important is the obvious:  hydrate, hydrate, and keep hydrating is the key with children during the summer.  Florida sunshine, concrete, big crowds, and long lines mean you heat up fast.

In three days, we rode every ride on our list while still spending a couple of hours at the pool each day.  It’s possible if you utilize the extra magic hours, the Fast Pass system, and stay on schedule.  Also, to make the most of our time, we ate every meal at our resort.  The food was so yummy.  To top it all, even though we ended each night by dividing a ginormous triple scoop ice cream sundae, I still lost two pounds.  Walt Disney World truly is a magical place!

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” — Walt Disney

Just my thoughts,

Melanie

 

 

gingham, romper, Summer Fashion

A Summer Of Gingham

Gingham is as vintage as Dorothy’s iconic dress, but still manages to remain fresh each year when Summer rolls around.  Lemonade stands, picnics, baseball games, parties by the pool, sandy beaches, and gingham.  It’s what we crave when the sunshine arrives to free us from cold weather.  This year, though, gingham is more than a traditional summer staple.  It has stepped up and is being rolled out as a fashion trend.  Old is somehow new again.

There are words we write in stone, aren’t there?  They are our character signatures.  Honesty, kindness, love, hope … caring for our children, looking after a friend in need, and believing in a power that is much higher than ourselves … those are a few we probably all share.  Other things, however, we write in the sand.  Those things are wiped away when the next wave comes in, never to be seen again.  Perhaps they are dreams meant for only our eyes.  Or maybe they are plans that are still in the building phase.  As summer makes her way in, even though you may be as vintage as gingham, be new again.  Take one of those dreams you’ve been writing in the sand, and dare to put it in stone.

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Since gingham is this season’s hottest fashion trend, you must put a piece in your wardrobe.  Pronto!  I found this cute off-the-shoulder black and white gingham romper at Lizard Thicket.  The fabric is cool, breezy, and wrinkle resistant.  Easy to pack for vacation.  And the draw string tie at the waist makes this romper adjustable for nearly every body type.

Rompers are so practical, by the way … they are a whole outfit that’s already put together.  It’s like getting two pieces of clothing for the price of one.  And no thinking or planning is ever required.  You simply slip it on like a summer dress and go.  The romper can be dressed up or down, and will always remain a classic.

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When I wear anything off the shoulders, I toss my hair up.  For this quick up-do, I started with a high pony and loosely wrapped my hair around and into a loose bun, not worrying about stray strands of hair.  Then I secured it with a few bobby pins.  It’s not perfect, but that’s the point.

This lightweight fabric teemed with a classic style I didn’t have to piece together is a winner.  Channel your inner Dorothy this season with some gingham.  While it’s true that there really is no place like home, you can still step out of your box with a romper and have an adventure or two.  This season is yours to seize.  Write something in stone, but don’t stop doodling in the sand.  Like vintage gingham, re-establish your place in the world.  And be new again.

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Just my thoughts,

~Melanie